Tuesday, February 21, 2017

7 Ideas for Teaching Kids Responsibility


Every mom who has ever stepped on a Lego asks themselves what more could they be doing to get their kids to pick up after themselves. I wish there was a magic pill that made kids want to clean up, but so far the best thing I have learned is consistency with these 7 principles.


1. Age Appropriate Chores - One of the best ways to teach kids responsibility is to give them responsibility. Make sure the chores are appropriate for their age. Some ideas for toddlers include picking up toys, dusting, clearing their own dinner plate and more. In the beginning it might be frustrating to teach your child these things but eventually they will pick it up.

2. Be an example - Your kids are going to grow up to be more like you than you think. Make sure you are showing them good habits.



3. Extra Chores for Money- Allowing your child the chance to complete extra chores for some money will help teach them to work for what they want. There should be some chores that are expected of them before they can do extras for money, this will help them learn to help as part of a family and then work extra hard for the extra things. If you don't like the idea of your child earning money for their chores you can have them earn something else like screen time. You can download our system for screen time minutes here.


4. Praise their good work - When you children help you make sure to praise them and let them know how happy you are that they are helping you.

5. Have Consequences For Lack of Responsibility - When your kids don't do their chores there needs to be appropriate consequences. In our house this usually means no screen time until the chores are done. Part of expecting your kids to be responsible is letting the deal with the consequences when they aren't.

6. Talk About The Importance Of Responsibility - Don't just have the responsibility talk once. Work it into your daily conversations. Let them know that there aren't any bowls for cereal because the dishes didn't get done. Talk about how important it is for parents to fulfill their responsibilities. Making this a small part of life will make it feel less like a lecture.

7. Build in a organizational system - Set your kids up to succeed with how their responsibilities are organized. Here are some of my favorite organizational systems to help little ones.


 A lunch cart- This cart has taken my daughter from stressing about making her own lunch to packing it like a pro in just a couple of minutes. It lets her know exactly what is expected of her and takes all of the guess work out of making her lunch. To find more about how we use our lunch cart and download the printable head over here.


 A Command Center - Our command center is just as much for me as it is for our kids. We have a large calendar so everyone in the family knows what is planned for the week. It is also where my daughter's chore chart lives so she can cross off her chores as she does them. My daughter cleans out her backpack after school every day and hangs up papers I need to see on the magnet board. This command center has made it so papers don't get lost in the clutter. Find more about our command center here.


Portable Homework Station - Our portable homework station lets our kids have everything they need to get their homework done right at their finger tips. No excuses on their homework because they have everything they need. Find more about our Portable Homework Station here.



My First Cubby from Little Partners - If you want your child to hang up their coats, put away their shoes and their backpacks you need a place to put them. When my daughter first started school I was always frustrated to find that her jacket and backpack would end up dumped in the bottom of the coat closet. I soon realized that she wasn't trying to frustrate me, she couldn't reach the coat hook. I started looking for a better solution. I found these cubbies by Little Partners and I am absolutely in love. There are two separate cubbies and each cubby has a place to hang things up and two separate shelves. My kids hang their coats on the hooks, then shoes go on the bottom shelf and mittens and hats go on the top one. The system is so easy that even my two-year-old can put her own stuff away. I had always assumed my toddler was two young to know how to put her own jacket away, apparently I just didn't have the right system in place.


My First Cubby is the perfect size. It doesn't take up too much space in our entryway, but it has space my kids need for their things. There is a small ledge for the kids to sit on when they are putting on their shoes. It has an anti-tipping strap so I am not worried about it tipping over when my toddler is climbing on it to get her things. I wanted these cubbies to help teach my 8-year-old more responsibility when it came to putting away her things but I have absolutely loved that it has taught the 2-year-old the same things.

When it comes to responsibility it is never too young to start teaching. Your toddler can put toys in a basket or even hang up their own jacket!

How do you teach your kids responsibility?
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19 comments:

Cecilia C. Cannon said...

love love love this chart. I hope it is not too late. I have older kiddos and I failed at teaching them this. back to the drawing board

Theresa's Reviews said...

Showing good habits is a really good tip. When I leave a dirty dish out one time, my children think they should every time!

Brandi Puga said...

These great tips! I have my kiddos do chores everyday and they can do extra chores for video game time. I really want to know what you are having your son do with the TP around the baseboards!

CourtneyLynne said...

Omg I actually fractured my foot by stepping on a mega bok a few years ago so I'm all about my daughter keeping her toys where they belong now!!! You definitely have some awesome tips here!!

Nikki said...

My son is 11 and definitely needs to start doing more chores. He's actually been asking to do more, mostly because he wants money, lol. I love your chart, that's a great idea!

Angela Ricardo said...

I know how frustrating it is to step on a lego. This age appropriate chores for kids are really great! Worth sharing.

Jennifer Johnson said...

I love these ideas! I wish Pinterest had been around when my kid were younger to find ideas like this, some of these are still handy with them being older.

blythe32 said...

My nieces and nephew learned the Clean Up song at daycare so they would always sing it when it was time to pick up. This seem to make it fun for them, even if it drove us adults crazy.

Alyssa Ruane said...

Very cool idea to put together some age-appropriate chores. I never really thought about that! Thanks for sharing your ideas

ana de jesus said...

I really like the idea of age appropriate chores as no matter what age you are there is a chore that you can do. Being an example is a good shout too x

Kiwi said...

I see a lot of parents raising brats so great way to start teaching children responsibilities. Great charts and ways to do chores not too late!

Krystal // The Krystal Diaries said...

I hear so many parents say they can't teach their kids to do chores because they are kids or because they are too young. I think it's great you are teaching your kids responsibility.

Jennifer (JenuineMom) said...

These are great tips! It's so important to teach our kids responsibility. Charts and rewards work best for me.

Rojielyn Toledo said...

this is a great blog post. I know that kids also need to feel the sense of responsibility at home and in the community.

Heather Riccobono said...

I love this so much! It's never too early to start teaching responsibility. My almost two year old loves to help but my eight year old would rather do anything other than clean her room!

amber said...

As a former educator, I can so appreciate parents that teach their kiddos responsibility at home. It makes such a difference in their confidence, their behavior and their relationships with their peers and adults alike. All great ideas.

Jean said...

These are some really great tips! Its definitely important for children to learn responsibility from a young age. It sounds like you have got lots of thngs in place to support your organised home and benefit your children.

Stephanie Lee said...

Great post. I totally think kids should have responsibilities. I love that infographic showing the different chores per age groups. I'm definitely going to use it for my toddler!

Tough Cookie Mommy said...

I think that setting a good example to your kids of what being responsible means is very important. They need to see that it is a trait that is valued in your home.